Coach KayliNASM Certified Personal Trainer and NCI Certified Nutrition Coach specializing in women’s health, fat loss, and mindset transformation. Summer is almost here—and if you’re like most women I coach, you’re probably feeling a little pressure to "get it together" before the season hits full swing. Maybe you’ve tried to start over more times than you can count. You’ve done the crazy cardio routines, skipped meals, cut carbs, and downloaded another free challenge hoping this time it will stick.
But let me tell you something powerful: It’s not too late. You don’t need to be perfect. And you definitely don’t need to punish your body to feel confident this summer. The next 90 days can look and feel completely different—not because you finally found the "magic fix," but because you focused on what actually works. Let’s break it down. Why Most Fat Loss Plans Don’t Work (And What to Do Instead) The biggest mistake I see women make this time of year? They go all in.
What works? Building a sustainable system of habits you can actually stick with—even on a busy Tuesday or a low-energy weekend. 5 Things You Can Start Doing Today These are simple. They’re doable. And most importantly, they work. 1. Pick Your BAMs (Bare Ass Minimums) These are the 4 daily non-negotiables I teach in my Phoenix Rising program:
2. Choose 3 Autopilot Breakfasts + 3 Autopilot Lunches Don’t play macro Tetris every night. Instead, create a simple meal rotation that hits your protein and fiber goals without making you think too hard. Not sure how? I’ve got a free plug-and-play guide you can download right [here]. 3. Lift Something Heavy Twice a Week Cardio won’t shape your body—strength training will. You don’t need hours in the gym. Just commit to moving your body with resistance a couple times a week. Your metabolism and your future self will thank you. 4. Focus on MORE, Not Less Instead of obsessing over what to cut, focus on what to add:
5. Track Your Wins (Not Just Your Weight) You are not a number on a scale. Track your strength. Your energy. Your consistency. Your confidence. Because those are the things that stick when the scale fluctuates. If You Start Now, You’ll Be So Glad You Did Imagine where you could be 90 days from now if you stopped overcomplicating the process and just focused on the right things. You could:
Something New Is Coming... I’m getting ready to launch my brand-new Phoenix Rising Group Coaching Community before the end of this month—and it’s built just for women like you:
More details are coming soon—but if your gut says this could be the thing that finally sticks, stay close. This summer? We rise. ✨ Ready to simplify your next 90 days? Start with your BAMs today, and watch what happens. You in?
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By Coach KayliLosing weight in your 40s feels different than it did in your 20s and 30s—because it is! Many women notice that the strategies they once relied on (eating less, doing more cardio, skipping meals) no longer work. In fact, they often backfire, leading to stalled progress, low energy, and frustration.
The good news? Weight loss in your 40s is absolutely possible—you just need the right approach that supports your metabolism rather than wrecking it. Here’s how you can lose fat, build strength, and feel amazing without extreme dieting. Why Losing Weight Feels Harder After 40Many women believe that weight gain in their 40s is just an unavoidable part of aging, but that’s not entirely true. The real reasons fat loss feels harder include: ✅ Hormonal Changes: Estrogen and progesterone start to fluctuate, affecting how your body stores fat—often leading to more accumulation around the midsection. ✅ Muscle Loss: If you aren’t actively working to maintain or build muscle, your body naturally loses it over time, slowing your metabolism. ✅ Higher Stress Levels: Busy careers, family responsibilities, and less time for self-care lead to higher cortisol levels, which can contribute to fat storage. ✅ Slower Recovery: Your body doesn’t bounce back as quickly, making excessive exercise and undereating even more harmful. So what’s the solution? Instead of chasing quick fixes, you need a sustainable, metabolism-friendly approach. 5 Steps to Losing Weight Without Damaging Your Metabolism 1. Prioritize Protein for Fat Loss and Muscle Retention. Protein is non-negotiable if you want to lose fat without losing muscle. It helps keep you full, supports muscle maintenance, and even has a thermic effect—meaning your body burns more calories digesting it. 💡 Goal: Aim for 0.7-1g of protein per pound of body weight daily. 🔹 Simple ways to hit your protein target:
2. Strength Train to Keep Your Metabolism High If you’re relying solely on cardio to lose weight, you’re missing a key piece of the puzzle. Strength training helps you build and preserve muscle, which keeps your metabolism fast and prevents that dreaded “skinny fat” look. 💡 Goal: Train 3-4x per week, focusing on compound movements like squats, deadlifts, hip thrusts, bench presses, and pull-ups. 🔹 Strength training benefits:
One of the biggest mistakes women make in their 40s is eating too little. Severely cutting calories might lead to weight loss at first, but it also causes muscle loss, slows your metabolism, and increases cravings, making long-term fat loss nearly impossible. 💡 Solution: Instead of eating as little as possible, focus on eating enough to fuel your workouts and recovery. A reasonable calorie deficit (200-500 calories below maintenance) is plenty to see steady fat loss. 🔹 How to know if you’re eating too little:
Cardio is great for heart health, but excessive cardio can increase stress hormones, break down muscle, and slow your metabolism. 💡 Goal: Instead of spending hours on the treadmill, aim for 2-3 days of cardio per week and make it intentional—think brisk walks, incline treadmill work, or short HIIT sessions. 🔹 Best cardio options for fat loss:
💡 Solution: Create habits that reduce stress and improve recovery. 🔹 Simple stress-reducing habits:
If your goal is to lose weight in your 40s and beyond, the old ways of dieting and endless cardio won’t cut it. Instead, focus on building muscle, eating enough protein, and managing stress. By following these steps, you won’t just lose weight—you’ll feel stronger, have more energy, and create a body that looks and feels incredible for years to come. 🚀 Ready to lose fat and get strong without the diet rollercoaster? Stay tuned—I have something coming soon that will help you get there! 💪🔥 As the New Year kicks off, many of us are setting health and fitness goals. For those looking to lose weight or build muscle, one question often comes up: "How can I speed up my metabolism?" While the idea of revving up your metabolism sounds great, it’s essential to separate fact from fiction and focus on strategies that truly work. In this blog post, we’ll bust common myths about metabolism and provide actionable steps to help you support your metabolism for lasting results. What Is Metabolism? Your metabolism is the process your body uses to convert food into energy. It’s not a single organ or system but a series of chemical reactions that keep you alive and functioning. The speed of your metabolism—your metabolic rate—is influenced by several factors, including:
Myth-Busting: What Won’t Speed Up Your Metabolism! Before diving into what works, let’s dispel some common misconceptions:
5 Proven Ways to Support Your Metabolism 1. Build and Maintain Muscle: Resistance training is one of the most effective ways to increase your resting metabolic rate. Muscle tissue requires more energy to maintain than fat, meaning you burn more calories even when at rest. Aim for at least 2-3 strength training sessions per week. Action Step: Start incorporating compound movements like squats, deadlifts, and bench presses to build muscle. 2. Prioritize Protein in Every Meal: Protein has the highest thermic effect of food (TEF), meaning your body burns more calories digesting protein compared to carbs or fat. Protein also helps preserve muscle mass during weight loss. Action Step: Include a source of protein (e.g., chicken, fish, tofu, eggs, or Greek yogurt) with every meal and snack. 3. Stay Consistently Active: While exercise is essential, non-exercise activity thermogenesis (NEAT) also plays a huge role in calorie burn. This includes all the movement you do outside of workouts, such as walking, cleaning, or even fidgeting. Action Step: Set a daily step goal, such as 8,000-10,000 steps, to increase your overall activity level. 4. Don’t Skimp on Sleep: Poor sleep disrupts hormones that regulate hunger and metabolism, such as leptin and ghrelin. Chronic sleep deprivation can make weight management more challenging. Action Step: Aim for 7-9 hours of quality sleep per night and establish a consistent sleep schedule. 5. Fuel Your Body Consistently: Under-eating can cause your metabolism to slow down over time as your body tries to conserve energy. Ensure you’re eating enough calories to support your activity level and goals. Action Step: Work with a coach or use a calorie-tracking app to determine the right caloric intake for you. Kickstart Your 2025 Metabolism Goals The start of a new year is the perfect time to take control of your health and set yourself up for success. By focusing on building muscle, eating enough protein, staying active, prioritizing sleep, and fueling your body properly, you can create a lifestyle that supports a healthy metabolism—no gimmicks needed. If you’re ready to start the year strong and want expert guidance, let me help you achieve your goals! I specialize in helping women in their 30s-50s regain confidence, build strength, and simplify fat loss with sustainable methods. Let’s work together to make 2025 your healthiest year yet. Click below to learn more about my personalized coaching programs! AuthorBy Coach Kayli Montoya-Huston  I have a bone to pick today, as I'm feeling a bit rant-y.
But mostly, I'm frustrated. Because I think you're getting tricked and it's time you learn the truth... See, the workout "truths" you've been fed are things like,
Ok, to be fair, it's not all nonsense - there is some truth in each one. But it's nonsense to the fact that ~95% of the people reading this newsletter lift weights for aesthetic reasons. Aka you lift weights to look better. Sure, you know it's healthy and therapeutic and helps you move better and makes you stronger, yada, yada. And yes, I get it ⏤ you don't want to look too bulky like a bodybuilder, or get too obsessed with your muscles, or not fit into your favorite outfits. I understand all of that. But at the end of the day, you MOSTLY go to the gym to 1) build muscle and 2) lose fat so you feel more confident in your clothes and proud of the body you see in the mirror. You want to be in-shape. Slim, defined, and muscular in all the right places. (And hey, me too. No shame here.) So if you agree that that is your main motive in the gym, then believing the "truths" above will only prevent you from reaching your goals. And why is that, exactly? Firstly, muscle and fat tissue can ONLY do three things:
And, again, yes we can also workout to improve our cardiovascular fitness, explosive power, core stability, and so on. Or just to have fun! These are all by-products of muscle building workouts too, they just aren't the primary focus. You can go to the gym and do whatever feels good for you. Do the HIIT class, the kettlebells, the battle rope, or Crossfit workouts. Just don't be upset when your body doesn't look the way you want, even though you're working out hard. Because remember: our goal in the gym is NOT to sweat the most or get our heart rate up as high as we can or to train for the NFL combine. Our goal is to gain muscle and lose fat. Period. Which means we need to do workouts that are built for exactly that. There's obviously way too much to break down in one blog, but I'll give you my general template. My muscle-building workout breakdown
To clarify, 2 and 3 are 80% of these workouts. And the other 20% ⏤ 1, 4, and 5 ⏤ support 2 and 3 to make them more effective via injury prevention and core stability. Or cardio, which supports fat loss. Notice how everything is hyper-specific to the goal of building muscle or losing fat. And, of course, the exercise selection, sets, rep ranges, and weekly progressive overload are the other components required to optimize all of this, but this is the skeleton. Maybe I'll chat on those another day, but I hope this was helpful. I'm passionate about making this clear because I want you to get results. And I've had too many clients come to me thinking they've been working out the right way, except they've looked the same for the last two years. Not because they weren't trying. But because they were putting their efforts in the wrong place. So my hope is to help you prevent that. You only have so much time, energy, and bandwidth to make it to the gym in the first place. If you're going to be there, I want you to make it count. Not wasting your time on fluff, false promises, or exercises that simply don't move the needle. One last thing, if you want to completely take the guesswork out of workout programming check out our ASCEND Training App. This app will help elevate your fitness journey with an all-inclusive collection of personal training programs designed to help rise to new heights. Thanks for listening to me rant. If you have any questions, just comment below. Thanks, Kayli   Welcome, ladies! Today, we're diving deep into a common obstacle many women face on their weight loss journey: being under muscled. You might be diligent with your diet, logging hours on the treadmill, yet still struggle to shed those stubborn pounds. Here's the scoop: it's time to shift our focus from just losing weight to building muscle. Let's explore why your muscle mass matters and how it impacts your weight loss goals.
Understanding the Problem: So, what exactly does it mean to be "under muscled"? In simple terms, it's having inadequate muscle mass relative to your body composition. As we age, especially between the ages of 30-50, our muscle mass naturally declines due to factors like hormonal changes, decreased activity levels, and even dietary habits. This decline in muscle mass not only affects our strength and mobility but also plays a crucial role in our ability to lose weight effectively. The Muscle-Fat Connection: Here's the kicker: muscle is a metabolically active tissue, meaning it burns calories even at rest. The more muscle mass you have, the higher your basal metabolic rate (BMR), which translates to more calories burned throughout the day. On the flip side, excess fat tissue does little in terms of calorie expenditure. So, if you're carrying more fat than muscle, your body becomes less efficient at burning calories, making weight loss an uphill battle. The Benefits of Building Muscle: 1. Increased Metabolism: By building muscle through resistance training, you can rev up your metabolism, making it easier to create the calorie deficit necessary for weight loss. 2. Improved Body Composition: Building muscle while losing fat leads to a leaner, more toned physique, rather than simply becoming smaller in size. 3. Enhanced Strength and Functionality: Strong muscles not only support you during workouts but also in daily activities, promoting better posture, balance, and overall vitality. How to Build Muscle and Lose Weight: 1. Strength Training: Incorporate resistance training exercises into your routine at least 2-3 times per week. Focus on compound movements like squats, deadlifts, lunges, and rows to target multiple muscle groups simultaneously. 2. Progressive Overload: Continuously challenge your muscles by gradually increasing the weight, reps, or intensity of your workouts over time. This stimulates muscle growth and prevents plateaus. 3. Balanced Nutrition: Ensure you're consuming enough protein to support muscle repair and growth, while also maintaining a slight calorie deficit to facilitate fat loss. Opt for nutrient-dense foods like lean meats, fish, eggs, legumes, and plenty of fruits and vegetables. 4. Rest and Recovery: Don't overlook the importance of rest days and quality sleep. Muscles need time to repair and grow, so prioritize recovery to avoid burnout and injury. Conclusion: Ladies, if you've been struggling to lose weight despite your best efforts, it's time to shift your focus to building muscle. Remember, it's not just about the number on the scale, but rather achieving a healthy balance of muscle and fat for long-term success. By incorporating strength training into your routine and prioritizing muscle growth, you'll not only transform your physique but also supercharge your metabolism and reclaim your confidence. Here's to becoming strong, empowered women who can conquer any challenge that comes our way! So, are you ready to say goodbye to being under muscled and hello to a stronger, leaner you? Let's do this together! Coach Kayli Blog Post By Kayli Montoya-HustonNASM Certified Personal Trainer & NCI Certified Nutrition Coach L1 and Mindset Coach Embarking on a weight loss journey can be challenging, especially when you're committed to shedding those stubborn pounds but see minimal results. If you're wondering why your body fat isn't budging, you're not alone. In this blog post, we'll explore the top 10 reasons that might be hindering your fat loss progress and provide practical solutions to overcome these obstacles.
Inadequate Caloric Deficit:
Conclusion: Identifying and addressing these roadblocks can pave the way for successful fat loss. Remember, patience and consistency are key. Consult with a qualified nutrition coach or personal trainer to personalize your approach and maximize your results. Your fitness journey is unique, and understanding these reasons can help you overcome obstacles and achieve your body fat loss goals. Welcome to 2024!
As we dive into the new year, let's focus on what really matters for fat-loss. I'm not about quick fixes or fads. It's all about practical steps you can actually stick to. This is my 9th January working in fitness, and I'm often inspired and rejuvenated by the new year too. Many people bash "resolutions," making it feel vulnerable to admit having big health goals for the new year. But you aren't alone. There are plenty of others watching this who want to improve how they look, move, and feel. The number one thing I hear from people at the beginning of each new year is their desire to lose weight, closely followed by wishes to eat "better" and "exercise more." Let’s tackle two out of these three: losing weight and eating better. These are the two things (besides maybe better sleep) that will help you feel better. So here is Tip #1 of the 10 no-nonsense strategies to help you lose fat more easily this year.
Stay strong, Coach Kayli!  First, what is Osteoporosis?
Osteoporosis is a condition characterized by weak and fragile bones that are liable to fracture. Normal, strong and healthy bones contain large amounts of minerals, which make them strong. The amount of these bone minerals within our bones is referred to as our bone mineral density (BMD). Our bones are in a constant state of adaptation, with bone being broken down and remodeled and rebuilt continuously. When bones break down faster than they rebuild, our bone mineral density decreases. Our BMD is highest when we are aged in our 20s, and then as we get older our BMD gradually declines. If this loss of minerals from the bone is excessive, our BMD will become very low, and we will develop osteoporosis. Osteoporosis is a common cause of fractures in older Americans, especially women. In women, the greatest rate of bone loss occurs in the years immediately following menopause. How can resistance training help? Resistance training to prevent osteoporosis: Regular weight-bearing exercise in children and teenagers helps produce strong bones; in adults it helps to maintain bone mass; after menopause it can be part of an overall treatment plan that aims to slow the rate of bone loss; and in adults over 65 years physical activity can be used to both reduce the rate of bone loss and avoid injury to bones by improving muscle strength and balance. The strength of your bones also determines the type of exercise that is appropriate and safe for your bones. Certain types of resistance training have been shown to minimize the loss in BMD, and in some research studies to even produce an increase in BMD. This is beneficial for both the prevention and the treatment of osteoporosis. If you already have osteoporosis or other medical conditions and have not exercised regularly, speak to a professional about designing an exercise program that is suitable for you. The best types of exercise for decreasing the risk of developing osteoporosis are:
Exercises such as swimming and cycling help improve cardiovascular fitness and build muscle strength, but are not as effective at preventing osteoporosis as weight-bearing exercise. So if you are already swimming or cycling regularly but not doing any other forms of exercise, you should consider adding weight-bearing and/or resistance exercise to your weekly routine. Always check with your doctor before starting a new exercise program. Resistance training helps improve your bone health by putting strain on the bones, which helps make them stronger. As your body adapts you will need to increase the resistance to continue to improve bone strength. There is some evidence indicating that progressing to heavier resistances is most effective in preventing the loss of an increasing BMD. Doing a program of resistance exercises 2-3 times per week has been shown to help maintain and even increase bone mineral density in women who have gone through menopause. Resistance training also helps to build up and maintain muscle mass, which helps reduce the risk of falls. Resistance Training For All Since the prevention of osteoporosis is a far better strategy than trying to reverse it, all adults should undertake regular weight-bearing and/or resistance training regardless of their age. In young people this will help to increase their BMD to higher peak levels, which will then reduce the risk of it declining to osteoporotic levels later in life. Continuing with this exercise throughout your life will minimize the decline in BMD that occurs with age and further reduce the risk of osteoporosis in old age. Want help? Not sure where to start or what program to run? That’s where I come in! Let me help you get started in your fitness journey with a safe, effective resistance training program tailored to your body and your goals. If having someone in your corner every step of the way in training, nutrition and mindset sounds like something you would greatly benefit from then take 2 minutes and click the link below to fill out an application for a 15 minute coaching call with me. Where we will discuss your goals in great detail and find out if we would make a great fit to work together.  Studies have shown that resistance training has many positive effects on physical health, but did you know that resistance training is also a good tool to use for mental health as well?
Studies have shown that resistance training has had positive benefits on many mental health issues. Of the trials conducted, participants have seen reductions in anxiety symptoms, reduction in pain intensity among patients with lower back pain, osteoarthritis and fibromyalgia, improvements in cognition among older adults, improvements in sleep quality among depressed older adults, reductions in symptoms of depression among patients with diagnosed depression and fibromyalgia, reductions in fatigue symptoms, and improvements in self esteem. Many of these things all seem connected. For example, weight training helps a patient sleep better which is going to lower ghrelin (the body’s hunger hormone). In turn, potentially causing them to reduce unnecessary snacking to help them lose a few pounds which could cause an improvement in self esteem. All of these things are interconnected in various different ways. Aside from all the mental health positives, resistance training also seems to have some built factors that help your overall approach to life a bit differently. Other than peace of mind and some self confidence, resistance training seems to also act as a wise janitor of life coming to teach you valuable life lessons and skills. The first, stronger muscles make daily tasks easier. If your everyday tasks can be performed with less pain and more ease, the stress of completing them will drop. Plus, the confidence boost of feeling stronger and being more self reliant isn’t a bad side effect either. Unless of course you are a husband that takes pride in opening the pickle jar! Second, let go with care. Hear me out! So when you lift weights, it’s important to perform both the eccentric and concentric motions with care and purpose in order to get the most out of the movement. It is simply key to proper performance. You should always use as much care to put down the weight as you did to pick it up. In life, when we are exhausted or overwhelmed by something, we often just cast it aside thoughtlessly and be done with it. Just give up. This will rarely serve you well. Ah, yes, next up, the value of rest. When I design programs, I assign specific rest periods between sets. There is a reason for this. You need to give your central nervous system a break and allow it to regroup before jumping right back into a lift. This is often why rest periods are longer on programs with heavy compound lifts. They are more taxing to your CNS than lower weight accessory movements. So, how does this relate to life you ask . . . well, just like weight training, when you pause in other areas of your life instead of rushing through tasks as quickly as possible, you’ll find that you are more productive and more positive results will emerge. Often you just need to find the right balance between rest and work. This one is another favorite of mine! The power of breath! Yes, breath. I know breathing is essential to life, but that’s not where I’m going with that. Those of you that have trained with me in person have probably heard me instruct you on how to breathe when you are lifting weights. It is very important for effective weight lifting to breathe properly. Generally speaking, you should be inhaling during the concentric and exhaling during the eccentric. This allows you to get maximal force in your lift. Similar effects can be seen during trying times in life. When you are feeling pressure or anxious, take a deep breath. Taking a few deep breaths will help you speak up, calm down and keep your cool much easier. Last but not least, to build strong muscles, you must break them. Yep, that’s right. When you lift weights, you tear your muscles. That’s the point, because they come back bigger and stronger. (insert Hulk growl) Think about it. You experience muscle growth after you tear the muscles. So basically to make a muscle stronger you have to injure it. It’s through the process of repair it gets stronger. Think about the hardest moments in your life. Think about how much they hurt. Did you get through it? Are you stronger now because of it? I would bet that every challenge you’ve encountered in your life has made you stronger and that’s because with pain comes growth. That growth can be emotional too. After all the heart is a muscle too. If I haven’t already spoken enough about the benefits of weight training, here’s just some more science backed evidence to show that resistance training literally can benefit everyone, in some way. You don’t have to be a bodybuilder or a powerlifter that’s training for a show to see benefits. Everyone has something to gain. If you’re ready to make a change in your life, but don’t know where to start, apply for a free coaching call. I’d love to be a part of your journey to a better life.  I want to teach you where you should put the majority of your focus on if you're wanting to lose fat, build some muscle and just care about your overall health.
This Hierarchy was explained very well to me by my Coach Jeremiah Bair. I would love to share with you what I have learned from him. To the right, you will see The Fitness Hierarchy Ranked from most-least important:
Most people are surprised by this, expecting cardio to be the number one focus, followed by stepping into the gym a few times, and dieting hard for a couple weeks every January. Now why doesn’t this work? Nutrition In order to lose fat we must eat fewer calories than we burn in a day. It is impossible to erase a poor diet with exercise. Why? Because you just don’t burn very many calories when you exercise (about 5% of your total daily calorie burn comes from exercise.) Calories in < Calories out = Fat Loss. This is called Energy Balance Main takeaway here is watching your diet to control the “calories in” side of the energy balance equation is much easier than trying to lose fat by ramping up the “calories out” side of the equation. This is why Nutrition is the most important factor to pay attention to. Resistance Training Lifting weights actually burns fewer calories than cardio. But, resistance training has many more benefits for you than cardio:
It’s rewarding It’s a huge psychological boost Find a plan you can see yourself sticking to for a really long time. Cardio Cardio is still helpful. We just don’t want to put the majority of our focus in it. Cardio has obvious cardiovascular health benefits-it’s good for your heart. Cardio has carryover to your resistance training. It allows you to recover quicker - both between sets and between training sessions. Now the biggest issue with cardio is that your body adapts very quickly to it. When you adapt to something, you become more efficient at it. Becoming efficient means you’re burning less calories. So take this for example: If you were to run 1 mile you might burn 100 calories. As the adaptation occurs, the calorie burn decreases. So after running a mile every day this week and burning a 100 calories each time you may end up only burning 90 calories the next week, and then 80 the next. The only way to keep burning 100 calories is to increase the distance and/or time spent running. The problem is - who has the time or desire in our busy lives to keep adding miles forever? Conclusion:
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